"Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder"

         I would like to speak a little on my relationship. So as I had mentioned in my intro that I have been in a relationship for about the past six years. What I didn't mention was on February 18, 2011 we break up, hint the off and on again part. Before we called it quits we fought about the past and our infidelity. I would like to say that we couldn't get over the past, but what I really mean is I couldn't let go of the past. As women (most women, not all) we tend to stick with the past. I wanted to know why, how, when, and how could you hurt me? During the time I found out about his infidelity, I try to get back at him. So yes I went out and cheated. Big mistake, cause I was not only hurting him but myself as well. So not only was I dealing with the pain of his infidelity, but the guilt of mine. The relationship wasn't the same anymore. There was more fighting about what happened in the past, then there was loving each other in the present. So I decide to call it quits. I knew in my heart that it would only get worst. So on February 18, 2011 that was the end of us.
           On that day I just felt this weight lifted off of me. There was no more thinking about what is he was doing, if he talking to another girl, or isf he was lying to me. So I spent this time finding myself. And in that time I realized that I had a big part in us not working. For one I lost myself in the relationship. I realized that I had put all my time and energy in to him. For two I let the past take control over my future. And three I was so blinded by my pain I didn't realized how hard he was trying to fix it. So my little advice to that is never lost yourself in a relationship. Go out and have fun like you did before he was there. Go out and have a "ME" day. Don't let go of your hobbies or activities just because you have a boyfriend now. Let him be apart of your world and not your whole world. It took me a year to realize what I was doing wrong.
            As you might know we are back together, hint the I'm in a relationship. Lol! Well on February 18, 2012 after a whole year has past we finally talked. We had lunch together and just caught up on each others lives. We both apologized to each other for the way we acted. I have to admit that seeing him felt like the first time I fell in love with him. That love and passion we had for each never went away. Looking at him made me realized how young and so stupid I was, but it also remind me how far I have come. Showed me how much I have grown up. I also seen how much he has grown up as well. I know that relationship takes two to make it work. And I know that we are both in it together until the end. No need to rush, we just take it one day at a time.
             That year apart made me appreciate what we have. That year opened my mind and heart. I truly believe that the heart does grow fonder in the absences of a loved one. A rose doesn't grow over night, and I didn't change over night. But I do know what I did wrong in the past. And I can and continue to learn from those mistakes. So if you are having problems in your relationship, take time to look at yourself cause nine times out of ten your the problem.






                                                                    LOVE&PEACE


                                                                               Mandiee